Peter McGraw speaks to Mary Delia Allen about her book Enjoy Your Solo.
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So you’re single this December. Happy Solo Holidays! This whole season is both wondrous and stressful for everyone, but it can be especially difficult for those who are not currently partnered.
How do you navigate the big feelings and the endless questions about your personal life from well-meaning friends and family?
Friend of the show Mary Delia Allen, author of the book Enjoy Your Solo is back to give you some much-needed peace of mind. She’s got a Santa’s sack full of coping mechanisms, thought exercises, and scripts that will make your solo holiday a merry one.
Get yourself an eggnog and settle in for a great conversation
.We also talk about how the need to pair up for ‘survival’ is no longer necessary, and that subsequently there’s nothing we can’t do in the solo life; the question of why we’re still succumbing to the pressure of marriage when the failure rate is so high; and how, as single women, we should all learn to prize and value ourselves in the same way we would if we were part of a couple.
.Traditionally, we’re all told to couple up because being a part of a couple meant security and prosperity, especially for women. But how times have changed! Single people are the fastest growing demographic. 48% of US adults are single, 30% of US of US households are people living alone!
Being single isn’t just popular, it’s fleeting time in your life where you get to really know yourself. Check out Enjoy Your Solo for some great advice
48% of US Adults are single. There has long been a great deal of advice on attracting, keeping and losing relationships. It’s time to flip the script and be motivated to make time spent without a partner the very best it can be. You are 100% of your relationship with yourself for the rest of your life and only 50% of your next relationship.
I am an expert on living life single and author of Enjoy Your Solo; How to Be Great at Being Single. Below are possible topics for me as a guest on your podcast.
A few suggested topics
· The New Solo. The reasons for being and staying single have evolved in the last century and the last decade. It’s time to change from the Single Stigma to Solo 2.0 which is a fleeting and cherished season and a chance for all parts of an individual to surface and shine
· The Solo on Standby. Maybe being single is a club you didn’t plan or want to join. There are still upsides to being solo. Don’t compare the best of a couple with the worst of being single.
· Treat yourself the best – as you would a beloved family member - no one is standing line to take care of you. Are you being attentive to your solo life as you would a relationship?
· Get beyond self. As a single it’s easy to focus on your own needs (and become self-absorbed) but it feels better to feel filled and ready to give
· One is Not the Loneliest Number and you ae a Valid Family of One. We are not an ark. Strategies for feeling confident as a solo in society. Being single allows more energy and time for diverse relationships and pursuits.
· Advice for lonely moments; TRAPS
Time to be Thankful, Reach Out to Connect, Act and Distract. Peace and Prayers, Stop the Spiral of Negative Thinking
· Socials solo life advice:
Party FOR One – staying in alone
Party OF One – going out alone
Party BEYOND One – going out alone to connect
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Mary Delia is a force of nature—a high energy, quick witted story teller. In Enjoy Your Solo, she shows (rather than tells) how singlehood can be the best seasons in your life. The Solo Revolution isn't coming; under Mary Delia’s dynamic guidance, it's already here!
This book was sent as a gift. I generally steer clear of any self help or advice books but felt obligated to at least peruse it since it was a gift. Two hours later I had finished the book much wiser and with a better plan of what I want my newly widowed life to look like. Good, basic, non-judgy observations and suggestions set forth in a humorous manner. If you're struggling with putting happy and single together in the same sentence, give it a read.
Mary Delia's high energy personality and quick wit made her a natural storyteller on the mic as a tour guide. Her passion and belief that being single can be one of the best seasons of a person's life impacted every guest she met.